I Have ADHD, Not a Defective Personality!

Flipping the Script on ADHD

If you have ever felt like you don’t fit into the typical mold, maybe you're not supposed to. Maybe your brain is built for strengths you haven’t tapped into yet.  ADHD doesn’t have to be viewed as a flaw to fix, but rather a part of who you are. And that part is worth appreciating too. 

In this post we are all about flipping the script on what it means to live with a neurodivergent brain. We will dive into how ADHD comes with real challenges and real strengths like creativity, big picture thinking, passion, and outside the box problem solving skills. From this perspective, we can start to let go of shame and start seeing the brain as different, not less. 

Switching Up the ADHD Narrative

ADHD is often misunderstood. It is not just about being distracted or hyper, nor is it  a character flaw. Despite many people with ADHD that grow up feeling like they are constantly falling short, being told they are too much, too scattered/disorganized or impulsive, the truth is ADHD is a neurological difference, not a defective personality. 

If we are able to set up systems and an environment that better supports our brain's strengths and growth, we can start viewing ADHD through a strengths based lens. Thus creating new possibilities for ourselves. We learn to stop fighting our brain and learn to work with it. The ADHD brain is wired for innovation, and curiosity. 

This is important work, but it doesn't mean it will be easy. Executive functioning challenges are very real. However, with the right tools and mindset, we can thrive. It’s about considering embracing who we are opposed to pushing ourselves to fit into a box that was never made for us. We aren’t broken, just different! 

ADHD Strengths

According to Dr. Russel Barkley, a leading researcher in ADHD, “Individuals with ADHD possess several strengths, including creativity, high energy, an entrepreneurial spirit, and a tenacity that often drives them to overcome challenges. These strengths, often overlooked in a deficit-based model, can be significant assets when channeled effectively.”  As Dr. Barkley states, ADHD strengths often go underutilized. Here are some traits that can prove to be a strength for those with ADHD:

• Creativity and the ability to think in non-linear, imaginative ways. Using big picture thinking in areas like art, innovation and problem solving. 
• Hyper focus when interested. Someone with ADHD can deep dive and become incredibly productive when engaged with the task at hand.
• Strong empathy and being sensitive to others. Many people with ADHD feel deeply and are attuned to others emotions.
• Resiliency. Living with a brain that works differently can lead to the building of inner strength and adaptability. 
• Courage to ask hard questions or challenge the norm. This can lead to breakthroughs in changing the way things operate, like outdated processes or ineffective systems.
• Carrying energy and passion into the things we care about, and inspiring others in the process.
  

No doubt struggles with executive functioning can weigh heavily on how we feel about ourselves. But in the same breath, we can also take a moment to reflect on where we shine as well. None of us humans are perfect. And we all have different strengths! 

How Do I Utilize My ADHD Strengths?

• Start tracking when and where you feel most engaged or energized. This can help you identify what is energizing and what is draining. Thus giving grounds in knowing where your strengths lie, and where you need more tools and support.
• Find or create environments that support flexibility and creativity. Such as removing distractions when trying to engage in projects. 
• Use tools that match how your brain works (like visual reminders, timers, or body doubling).
• Lean into your passions - ADHD brains light up with interest!
• Find a support system, connect with others who “get it” and can offer support without judgment.

Team Voices: Here is what one of our providers at Cognito has to say:

“I’ve honestly grown to really love the way my brain works. Sure, it has its challenges — but when it comes to creativity, big picture thinking, and connecting ideas in unique ways, those are the things that make me feel most like myself. My ADHD brain helps me see the world differently, and that’s something I truly value.

Working with so many different people in the mental health field, I’ve noticed how fast my brain can move — and how it helps me keep up, make connections, and understand people in a way that feels intuitive. I often find myself connecting the dots quickly, and that helps me support others in ways that are really meaningful.

Letting go of the idea that things have to be done the ‘neurotypical’ way — and unlearning all the rigid rules I used to put on myself — has been so freeing. Now, I can move toward my goals in ways that actually work with my brain, not against it. And that way of doing things? It’s uniquely mine — and that’s something I have come to be proud of!
‍– Katelyn Kohlen, CBT Care Provider

Embracing ADHD Differences 

Living with ADHD doesn’t have to be about changing  who we are. It can be an opening to understanding how our brain works, and learning to support ourselves in ways that actually make sense for us. It can be easy to feel we are falling short in a world that seems to support the neurotypical mind. However ADHD doesn’t mean you are broken, it means you have a brain that thrives with different tools.

You’ve likely spent years trying to fit into the mold that was not made for you. It’s ok to build your own path. One that honours your creativity, your energy, heart, and your very real needs. Progress can start when we learn to work with ourselves rather than against. It's not about changing character, just the way we support ourselves in how we function in our day to day lives.

Ready to Learn More About Your Own ADHD Strengths?

You don’t have to navigate this journey alone. At Cognito, we’re here to help you better understand your brain, build practical tools, and start living in alignment with who you really are. Whether you’re newly diagnosed or looking for ADHD-informed support, we’ve got you. It’s ok that your brain works differently and that difference deserves to be understood, supported, and celebrated.

Visit our website to connect with a provider who can help you explore what works best for you and your brain.

Written by: 

Brittany Bercier, CBT Care Provider

References:

Barkley, R. A. (2015). Attention-Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder: A Handbook for Diagnosis and Treatment (4th ed.). Guilford Press.

Article: Meet the Top ADHD Researchers & Advocates, According to ADDitude Experts

E. M., & Ratey, J. J. (2011). Driven to Distraction (Revised): Recognizing and Coping with Attention Deficit Disorder. Anchor Books.

Article: ADHD: Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorders

Tuckman, A. (2012). More Attention, Less Deficit: Success Strategies for Adults with ADHD. Specialty Press.